Innocent until proven guilty. Having seen DV, the woman is not always the victim. The woman does not always tell the truth.  This is especially true in the case of athletes, as the women can get rich and/or blackmail to get rich (on the night of the draft, tell cops he beat you unless he gives you millions). The accuser frequently exaggerates and in some cases outright lies to take advantage of the situation. For example, a certain woman I know in a certain situation scratched a man’s face, beat on his doors all night, tried to choke him (I’ve seen all of this), and then told her friends that he was “cheating” from the evidence of a blank birthday card and was trying to kill her (with the evidence of a random arm bruise). She said he choked her so much she passed out while she just “apologized” and “didn’t do anything.”

Thankfully, he had video evidence of him doing nothing as she scratched his face and yelled bloody murder at him.  This is not to say that there aren’t a ton of situations out there where the woman is the complete victim.  Do everyone a favor and don’t quote height and weight, that only matters when both parties are ready to fight and similarly trained, as in boxing…  Where the comparison to fighting originated from.

If the guy is innocent, he wouldn’t have any reason to think to get evidence to defend himself. I hate the mantra “Don’t attack the victim!” People always assume this… This woman is a “theoretical victim,” nothing else is proven. Look at all the false rape (Virginia, Duke, and Mattress Girl to name a few) and DV accusations people use to get their way/money/fame.  Always support the victim but also be a skeptic.  As a side note, a lot of these false allegations will stop when the women are actually punished for trying to ruin someones life for a petty reason.

Plenty of times, the woman is the offender but the man never tells anyone for fear of emasculation. Both parties need to have their past dug up, it helps reveal the truth. THEN you can have your witch hunts. The court of public opinion has become guilty until proven innocent, often wrongly so.

For example, “The National Violence Against Women survey found that 21.5 percent of men and 35.4 percent of women living with a same-sex partner experienced intimate-partner physical violence in their lifetimes, compared with 7.1 percent and 20.4 percent for men and women, respectively, with a history of only opposite-sex cohabitation.” So the domestic violence rate is actually HIGHER for women than men in lesbian relationships.  Women are not ALWAYS the victim.

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